Tuesday, February 20

Spreading the News

To say that the event that had just happened to me was a surprise would be an understatement. I was so unaware of what Mr had been planning. It was after the whole thing, that I started noticing clues. A week before, my cousin was asking me when I thought my boyfriend would propose and I told her, I didn't think he would propose till two years time! Meanwhile he had asked her to help him find a ring! LOL. I also remembered him checking my fingers and commenting that they were very slim. At the time he had been trying to judge my ring size but I hadn't suspected! And then I also remembered meeting his siter-in-law in church a week earleir and she had practically begged me to come for the party. And on the way to the party, my uncle was grumbling something like, "they should come to us, we shouldn't go to them..." I also remember him bugging me to give him my mum's number because he wanted to ask her something, and I had told him to tell me what he wanted to ask her but he wouldn't. Now it all added up. I'm glad I didn't guess though because I would have spoilt the surprise. I'm sure no lady wants to ruin the moment when her boyfriend asks her to marry him.
As soon as we left the party I called Mr. I teased him endlessly and asked him how he set the whole show up. He was blushing as he told me how he had planned it with his brothers and my family, how the party was a cover-up, how he had chosen the ring with my cousin, and persuaded my uncle to bring me. Awwwww..
The next day was a Sunday. As an usher, I smile when I welcome people, but it seemed everyone noticed that I was smiling even more that morning. My pastor came to ask me what was up and I showed him my finger. He was like, "Wow, so the man is serious? That's good...." I showed off my ring to my ushering team, and they were so excited too, as another member was getting married and we were planning a bridal shower for her that afternoon. After the service, I attended the shower and was imagining what mine would be like.... Later that afternoon, I called my mum and told her the news. She was pleased and she said it was time to tell my dad that I was in a serious relationship. I told her I would tell him when he came to England for my graduation in three months' time and she said that was fine.

For the next week or so I was floating on clouds. I remember getting to work on the Monday after, and my manager asked me if I'd had a good weekend. I smiled and showed him my ring. He jumped and shouted to everyone in my department, "Look everyone, Favoured Girl* got engaged over the weekend!" and they all crowded round my desk to congratulate me, offer to make my tea, ask questions about how it happened and such like. It was fun. I also told my sisters and two of my very good friends that I was engaged. At the time none of my other mates were engaged or married, so I was the first one to share such news. They were excited and happy for me, and I remember telling them to hurry up and join me soon.

But gist spreads fast o. Before I knew it, they told someone who told someone who told someone etc. I started getting different calls and emails from friends, well-wishers, haters and other random people. The funny thing was three of my male friends came out of the shadows saying they had crushes on me and were hoping something would still happen between us. I told them that it was too late. (More on this later). Some people were calling me to say congrats. Some people were calling just to hear gist and do "gbeborun". Some people called to say they heard from somebody else and they were offended that I didn't tell them myself. Some people called to tell me they heard I was married and I hadn't invited them to my wedding. Some people called my best friend to confirm fom him, then he called me to tell me that speculation was rife among some friends who didn't know me very well. People were spreading all kinds of rumours that I had gotten pregnant and was rushing into marriage to hide my shame. I heard another rumour that my parents could not afford to keep me in England anymore, so they were marrying me off to some rich old man who wanted a young wife as soon as possible. I was 20 when I got engaged, and I know that's young, but people can be so hateful. Why would such a thing enter somebody's mind if not for envy? At least find out the truth first, before spreading spiteful rumours.

Well I wasn't going to let rumours dampen my joy, so I chose to ignore them. I really enjoyed being engaged. It was fun telling and re-telling the story whenever people asked. It was great fun planning and anticipating the next steps that we were going to take. I still called Mr my boyfriend though cos I never really got used to introducing him as my 'fiance'.

13 comments:

Lee said...

Woah!!! I won't lie, I think I'll pass out when he proposes to me.. Gosh I hate surprises.. or I might just cryyyyyyyy.
I cant believe people are envious of your engagement.. Too bad for them.

LondonBuki said...

People and gist! It's good to know you didn't let any of it get to you :-)

Ofcourse, some people can't let you JUST BE! They have to speculate and speculate. AS for people calling you to say they were offended you didn't tell them...I don't get!

I like this blog! :-)

chainreader said...

Absolutely loving this journey!

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LM said...

There will always be people who are soo envious they'd like to think the worst. Be prepared for more untruths etc. from envious people sho know nothing about your relationship. The good thing is - you don't care! Tee hee. Congrats again and enjoy the ride.... My spouse was able to get the ring I wanted via my cousin, who arranged everything, without me suspecting. How she managed to keep it all a secret is admirable!

Blessed Child said...

Babes,u make a girl wanna get married like right now!!Am still waiting for the lucky man...

It's scary how people start spreading rumours you know.Bad bele,jealousy,evil...evil...evil!!It doesn't take much to be happy for someone..or does it??
Glad u didn't let all that bug you.

Looking forward to ur next post.

yankeenaijachick said...

lol........l can imagine how you felt. Shame on all the rumour carriers but girl am glad you having fun and enjoying it all. Anyways, l might as well join the rumour carriers and ask you right now. When's the wedding?lol later

Virtue said...

Thanks for welcoming me to Blogville! I appreciate the warm welcome :) I really like your blog and I just added it to my favorites - like a lot of people have mentioned, it's very inspiring and I will definitely have to find time to read all your posts...maybe i'll print it out and read at my leisure :)...God bless and have a Happy married life!

azuka said...

Wow! Your man most definitely is romantic. I wouldn't have expected less after reading what he did for Valentine's...

Learn, Azuka, learn...

Anonymous said...

how old was mr. at the time?

confusednaijagirl said...

Lucky you girl. I am glad you didnt let the haters bring you down

God's child said...

I love this blog, thanks for updating, its a touching story.
God who is Love brought your love.

truth said...

My first gasp went like this,"20???". I then spent the next minute thinking of when I was 20 and how I would have handled a proposal; very well I'd say, especially since that was once my ideal 'hook up' age. Good for you though. I enjoyed the part where you showed off your ring to the ushers and co-workers.They offered to make your tea?lol.don't you just wish you got a proposal from Mr every weekend since then.lol. Take care girl.

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